That may feel weird to think about to you. Back when I first started to realize part of my grumpy mood and frustrations was due to not taking proper care of me, and how I constantly tabled my own life mission to do what everyone around me asked me to do, I felt weirdly guilty for even thinking about it.
I mean, how selfish.
(NO! NO! NO!)
If you’re feeling this way, you may want to read this piece I wrote over here about finding a great balance in life. You see, we share our lives with others — that’s how it’s meant to be. We all naturally lay down what we want for other people — also good.
As women though, we are often tempted to constantly say yes to everyone and everything until twenty years fly by and you’re feeling like life is just being used by everyone around you. That’s bad. That’s life out of balance.
No wonder we get grumpy! About 15 years ago, I was a miserable person to be around.
So before you get the low down on getting more done, we need to make sure that this isn’t just another guilt trip, weighing down your soul.
While I was writing the content for this page, I found myself thinking of certain songs. I have a friend who used to say that the music we listen to is the soundtrack of our lives. True enough!
So, I created a playlist called Adventure Awaits over at Spotify. Check it out.
A huge part of getting more done isn’t actually getting more done. Instead, we must, for our own sanity and the good of everyone around us, learn to get the right things done.
Of course, once you start living your life according to your values, and your own priorities, you may receive some flack from others. Some people love to expect you to drop everything for them and their priorities, but they aren’t so keen when your priorities don’t line up with theirs.
You probably don’t need to add more to your already packed life.
Instead, consider what level of busy you are able to maintain while being happy, healthy, and cultivating good relationships with those who matter most. Then, build a fence around that. Say no to anything that will make you busier than you know you can handle.
You know what I mean.
There’s a certain point in your life where your brain starts to short circuit, your body is weary, the family life feels strained, and everyone is crabby. That’s the “too busy” point.
You and I both need to stay out of the too busy zone.
To start having better priorities, figure out what is most important to you in your life, right now. I say “Right Now” because our priorities do change as we move into different seasons of life. For example, if you have a houseful of little kids, your priorities will be different than an empty nester or a single young professional. Life comes at us in seasons, and we need to respect that.
As the saying goes, the good really is the enemy of the best.
One of the most frustrating parts of life, for me, is the fact that there doesn’t seem to be enough time in each day to do what I want to do or feel like I need to do. No one has the time to do everything they would like to do.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day, and we each must choose what stays and what gets sacrificed in our daily schedules.
With so many good things demanding our attention, time, and money, how do we decide what is and is not important? How do we filter out the good from the best?
Figuring out the answers to those questions will make decision making and life in general so much easier!
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