When I first started writing again, after having little babies in the house, the topic was on frugal living mostly. Well, motherhood and frugal living. I would have balked at the concept of Abundance.
Survival Mode Scarcity Can’t See Abundance
Well, as I’ve written before regarding poverty, when you’re in the thick of it — survival mode — abundance is a concept that you can’t even begin to comprehend. Abundance is for rich folk. People of privilege. The lucky ones. The rest of us poor shrubs are down here in scarcity land.
I knew the topic of frugal living intimately at the time. I couldn’t wrap my head around abundance.I knew the topic of frugal living intimately at the time. I couldn't wrap my head around abundance. Click To Tweet
As many of you know the story, we were doing pretty well in our life until one day my husband, a skilled tradesman, went into work and work was boarded up. then the last few paychecks bounced. The lucrative trade we were in went overseas, where they could get away with paying slave wages instead of paying workers what they are worth. I had five kids ages 6 and under at the time.
Life Changes. They’re adults now, and that time is a distant memory.
Revisiting Frugal Living in the Land of Abundance
I was thinking about many of these topics recently as I rehashed and updated the information in my book, “Shopping and Cooking Frugally”, which I’ve renamed “Grocery Savings Survival Guide: 12 Strategic Steps to Saving More at the Grocery Store”. I redid so much information in there and changed it so much, it needed a new title.
While working on this rewrite on frugal living, while experiencing a bit of abundance in my life (vs. the scarcity that birthed that original book), I realize how much I’ve changed.
I’m not rich. Actually, by the charts, we’re now lower middle class. It feels like abundance after being in poverty.
Abundance, Scarcity and Frugal Living Aren’t About your Bank Balance
But really, when I speak of the land of abundance (in a tongue-in-cheek sort of way), I’m not so much talking about what’s in my bank. We still have setbacks. We work more than 40 hours each most weeks. We’re hoping we’ll be able to retire one day. My jeep I drive cost only $500.
Instead, when I use the words scarcity and abundance, I’m talking about what’s in my head, not my bank.When I use the words scarcity and abundance, I'm talking about what's in my head, not my bank. Click To Tweet
When you’re in scarcity or poverty, you’re thinking, “I can’t afford that.”
When you’re in abundance thinking, you think, “Hmmm. How can I afford that? What can I do to get me some of that?”Click To Tweet
Abundance Changes Your Approach to Frugal Living
Now, there are some idiots out there who, in their “abundance mindset” go out and get into debt (and encourage others to do the same) by claiming abundance. This is foolishness. You can’t go wrong with spending what you have, not what you hope to have.
But abundance does change my approach to frugal living in many ways. I hope to revisit this topic again shortly in more detail.
For one thing, I am no longer thinking about what I can’t have, and what I can’t afford. It’s not martyrdom or deprivation.
It’s no longer learning to be so content I grow complacent in the situation either. I used to think, “Well, if I can’t afford this, then God must know I don’t really need it.”
When there’s something I feel like I need now, I start by praying about it. And then I ask God for wisdom. “If I need this, how do I make this happen? What do I need to do to afford this?”
It’s a subtle change, but it’s significant.
Now when I make cuts to my budget, it’s usually about moving things around to afford something else. It’s about saving money so I can continue my education, pay for web hosting, buy advertising, pay for services I need online for my business, and otherwise start to work my side hustle.
I no longer am trying to grab my part of the limited pie (scarcity). I’m adding to the pie so we all have enough.I no longer am trying to grab my part of the limited pie (scarcity). I'm adding to the pie so we all have enough. Click To Tweet
If you want to find out more about the Grocery Savings Survival Guide, you can find out more over here. The Grocery Savings Survival Guide is available over at Amazon.com both for Amazon Kindle and as a paperback book. It includes 12 strategic steps to help you save more at the grocery store.
- Why bulk shopping isn’t about buying big packages
- How coupons can help you afford a whole foods diet
- Discover apps and offers that will give you cash back when you shop
- Learn how to save time and money by ordering your necessities strategically online
- How shopping with cash helps you save even more
- Figure out ways to save time and money on your favorite meals
- Why a slow cooker is a busy mom’s friend and how to use it to your advantage
- Learn the secrets to making your meals taste amazing, even on a budget
- Develop a strategy for your sack lunches and snacks to save even more
- How to plan your meals for maximum savings
- Discover ways to plan your shopping trip to save money and time